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1. Why is it important to understand my emotions?
There are many ways in which we experience life: our thoughts, emotions, and sensations are three such ways. Many people have clear awareness of at least one of these elements of experience, but not of all three. Individuals who have trouble moving on after a loss, for example, typically have been unable to deal with their loss cognitively, emotionally, or experientially.
2. Do men and women really deal with their emotions so differently?
Yes and no. Any experience we have is viewed through the lens of our socialization. Boys and girls are rewarded by society for behaving and thinking in distinct ways. Culture and ethnicity also influences how we view and experience our emotions.
3. What happens when people ignore their emotions?
Feelings that are ignored can “leak out” into other areas of life such as relationships, physical health, spiritual outlook, and habits. A large number of issues for which individuals seek counseling such as eating disorders, substance abuse, pornography addiction, or failed relationships, involve mismanaged or ignored emotions.
4. How might counseling help me deal with emotions?
A counselor or therapist can help you become aware of numerous aspects of your life experiences, both past and present, to help you find healthy ways to express your emotions rather than ignore them or act on them in unfortunate ways.
5. Aren’t some feelings bad or sinful?
Humans were created with the capacity to experience a wide range of emotions. The bad or sinful aspect of feelings doesn’t come from experiencing them; it comes from acting on them in unhealthy ways. People can also feel one thing such as sadness, but act in an angry way. Likewise, feeling angry doesn’t mean that you must hurt someone else. It may mean that a boundary was crossed or that you didn’t take care of yourself in some way, among other things.
Q. I’m feeling overwhelmed with schoolwork and managing my time, where can I go for help?
A. The LLU Student Counseling program can help students find practical solutions to difficulties experience in personal or academic life. LLU students receive 9 free visits per academic school year. Located on Barton Road and Mountain View Ave, they can be reached at (909) 558-6028. Hours are: Monday – Thursday 8 am – 7 pm, Friday 8 am – 4 pm. The Student Assistance Program also offers 8 free sessions per academic school year to LLU students. Located at 11360 Mountain View Ave, Loma Linda, they can be reached at (909) 558-6050.
Q. Who can I talk to if I’m having trouble fitting in at LLU?
A. Located on Barton Road and Mountain View Ave., the Student Counseling Program can help students find practical solutions to difficulties experienced in personal and academic life. Students get 9 free visits a year and can attend additional sessions with copay. They can be reached at (909) 558-6028 or jdyer@llu.edu (all services are confidential). Students are also encouraged to talk to their dean or advisor.
Q. I am facing an ethical dilemma at work, but I am worried about going to someone associated with Loma Linda. Where can I go?
A. At the Loma Linda Employee Assistance Program (LLEAP), your confidentiality is important. Often times, employees are referred to LLEAP to address work-related problems. LLEAP will not release information to your employer without your prior written consent. All appointments are staggered in order to ensure that employees will not encounter coworkers in the office or waiting area. The office is equipped with three exit points, further guaranteeing your confidentiality. All LLEAP services are free of charge to benefit eligible employees, their spouses, and children. Located on Mountain View Avenue in Loma Linda, they can be reached at (909) 558-6050.
Q. I don’t like asking for help, but I’m not sure how to handle the situation I’m dealing with.
A. Reaching out for help can be a daunting task at times, which is why the staff at the Loma Linda Employee / Student Assistance Program (LLEAP) is committed to providing you with a comfortable and accepting environment in which to share your concerns. You can expect to be treated with dignity and respect by LLEAP's skilled and sensitive staff which has demonstrated expertise in the following areas of treatment:
- Depression
- Anxiety
- Stress
- Burnout
- Marital problems
- Family conflict
- Child & adolescent difficulties
- Post-traumatic stress
- Psychiatric disorders
- Substance abuse
- Alcohol abuse
- Eating disorders
- Gambling addiction
- Legal concerns
- Medical problems
- Financial difficulties
- Grief
- Life transitions
- Work-related problems
EMOTIONAL OUTLOOK: ON CAMPUS RESOURCES
Loma Linda University Student Assistance Program (909) 558-6050
11360 Mountain View Avenue, Hartford Building, Suite A, Loma Linda, CA
Student Counseling Center (909) 558-6028
11374 Mountain View Avenue, Dover Building, Loma Linda, CA
Loma Linda University Marriage and Family Therapy Clinic (909) 558-4934
164 W. Hospitality Lane, Suite 15, San Bernardino, CA
Psychology Services Clinic (909) 558-8576
11130 Anderson Street, Suite 117, Loma Linda, CA
- LLU Student Counseling Program: Located on Mountain View and Barton Roads in Loma Linda. LLU students receive 9 free visits per academic school year. Includes psycho educational testing, medication evaluation/management, and counseling therapy for: addiction, relational problems, stress management, test anxiety, anger management, depression, personal adjustment to academic life, adjustment to a new home. See www.llu.edu/llu/studentaffairs/counseling/ for details.
- University Chaplain’s Office: http://www.llu.edu/central/chaplain/index.page?
- LLUMC Chaplain Services: http://www.llu.edu/central/religious/chap.page?
- Christian Counseling Center of Redlands: http://www.christiancounselingservice.org/
EMOTIONAL OUTLOOK: ONLINE RESOURCES
- Focus on the Family, Emotional Health: Read articles that discuss life’s difficult questions. Topics include emotional health, life transitions, managing money, abuse and addiction, love and sexual issues, and relationship challenges. See http://www.focusonthefamily.com/lifechallenges/emotional_health.aspx.
- Resource Service at the University of Chicago Virtual Pamphlet Collection: Includes online information on substance abuse, dissociation, impulse control, time management, and MANY more topics. (Some resources may not align with LLU’s views). See http://counseling.uchicago.edu/resources/virtualpamphlets/index.shtml.